How to Talk So Your Child Will Listen: Vulnerability Is Key! Mothers, daughters and vulnerability
Last week I ran into a young woman (Ill call her Marielle) on the street. She reminding me that I’d precipitated a turning point in her relationship with her mother– and in her life.
We’d met a decade earlier when I’d given a talk at her high school.
“After your talk, my mother opened up in a new way,” she said. .. “or maybe I opened up in a new way as well.” As we she spoke I flashed back to the presentation she referred to:
I’d been invited to talk about eating disorders, the audience was parents and teens. I’d begun my talk explaining that people who develop anorexia, bulimia and binge eating generally feel disconnected and isolated; I emphasized the importance of parents becoming better listeners, being tuned into the emotional problems that lurk beneath the problems with food, eating and weight concerns. One parent spoke up and said she often felt frustrated when she attempted to make contact with her daughter. Other parents echoed, chiming in about how inaccessible their children were, buried in their cell phones.As parents spoke up, I noticed a few teens texting and checking iphone messages.